Dating question can guy be too nice
The Nice Guy spends his time trying to be as close to his designated crush as possible – after all, the more time he gets to spend with her, the more opportunities she gets to recognize his inner stud-muffin.
He goes out of his way to do nice things for his “friend”, earns her trust and her confidence, provides a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen with… which is all well and good if he were being a genuine friend to her. All of this attention is done, with the desire to support his friend but to ingratiate her to him.
It’s nice that the guy doesn’t want you to be attacked by a robber—or worse—but you spend the whole walk wondering if he is a robber—or worse.
And then all you can think is; “Now he knows where I live” or “Maybe he just wrote down my license plate number.” Men: if it’s the first time you’re meeting a woman, don’t walk her to her car or home, just the two of you. Is he trying to make sure nobody on the outside gets in, or that nobody on the inside gets out?? Maybe the guy is trying to show you you have his full attention.
Guys: we know you’re trying to be nice, but these gestures actually just send us running for the hills.This just starts to make a woman feel that a man wants her to be indebted to him…You’re a grown woman. Maybe feeding you one bite off of his dish so you can try it is okay.But ordering a bunch of “plates for the table” and obsessively feeding you every bite makes you think he has a problem.I’ve just started a new job, and am trying to balance my time between this job, a long-term creative project, taking care of myself (cooking, exercising, etc.), and of course making friends.I also met someone who is, in some ways, really great. I’m pretty sure that I am going to have to have an awkward conversation with him, and I’ve actually already figured out what I need to say, so that’s not the question. The way he’s intense reminds me of myself, like, five years ago. Is there any way I can go backwards in time, get rid of all the serious crap, and somehow just do silly things with him and maybe sleep together for a while?
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